Bob, you're getting some good advice here in the last couple of posts. Slow down a bit.

You're mind-reading and it seems that may be a good place for you to start your work, along with asking directly for what you need.

Why not text her with: "I'd like to see him. When would be a good time?"

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss