"You said that you know your H's personality. Has he been in this type of situation before? Curious to know if you have something similar in his history to reference."
Yes, he has had a couple of friendships where things have gone bad and he has tried to reconnect, but the other people don't respond. So he has just given up.
I tried the method of telling him that I wasn't going to communicate with him. That if I needed something I would contact a mutual person to let him know there was an issue with the house, or with the kids and then have that person contact him. I also told him that if he wanted to see the kids he could contact our older son and find out about them through him. Thus, all contact with me would cease. He got really pissed. Saying that no matter what happened we would still need to have mutual communication since we have children and property. He told me that my plan was BS.
Yes, I am worried about pissing him off and then pushing him to the point that we won't communicate at all.
He told me the other day that he is trying to figure things out.
We have gotten together twice to just sit and talk and have a couple of drinks and not discuss the affair- to just connect again. I don't want to lose that.
