Ok, ganb8te, I've caught up on your thread. I agree that some more clarity from your H would possibly be useful. That said, don't push him for it. Stick with the counterintuitive nature of DBing and don't go for the R talk.
Keep showing him why he'd be a fool to leave you. At this stage, worry less about what you'll need to feel good about the R again and focus on what is working in regards to getting him through the fog. Try to stay out of the cheese less tunnels.
Be patient and stay strong!
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
