She agrees with him transitioning but conversations went in ways she didn't like.

She would say "first he needs to come home and when he feels comfortable we can discuss it with him in a way he doesn't feel pushed out" I would answer "we need to discuss this transition ASAP as he begins to come back. I'm not comfortable with this situation at all and if he's going to object or refuse to cooperate I need to know before he's released".

I understand it sounds cold or unemotional but I'm sorry that's how it has to be.

This long weekend he's at my place during the day while she's spending it away with friends at a cottage because she feels like she's on the edge of a burnout.

She texted me once with "I wish the younger ones could stay with you permanently and he'd stay with me" in anger. I asked her to confirm that as a request and she never said it again.

I would love to R but it seems so foreign now. I can barely remember holding her anymore. She almost seems a stranger.

How about you Melissag? I'm sorry I haven't kept up with your situation. Any progress I. Yours?

Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.