If you move out before, you are showing the judge you don't care about the house and don't care about the kids, the judge sees it as a type of abandonment. The judge says "What is the current situation? H is out of the house and W is taking care of the kids? Ok, well if that is what is working now we will leave things that way in the temp decree. ".
Exactly what I've heard, too. Never let the spouse order you out of the house. Never leave unless you feel physically threatened.
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We talked a bit about custody schedules, she is proposing something like 70/30, I said I would talk to my lawyer but that I planned on more 50/50. She didn't get angry, just grimaced and said she thought that would be too disruptive for the kids. I left it at that.
If she didn't want to disrupt the kids, HELLO, she could actually try to save her marriage instead of blasting it all to hell. She just wants everything her way.
My heart feels for your sitch, HopeTex. I'm hoping more veterans will help you out.
I don't have to worry about minor children in my impending D. (Thank you, God, for that!) And even though you and I do not want to D, we still have to be cooperative with our STBX. So I'm not sure DBing can be done any more than you are already doing.
You are protecting yourself and your family from the fallout as best you can, while being respectful, calm and strong. I admire that, it shows strength of character, and it shows the world that you are a man she is a fool to leave.
She is such a fool.
M:54, H:55 T:33, M:27 12/13 BD: EA 01/14 BD: PA, H leaves 03/14 H & OW break up 05/14 H says he will file for D 08/14 H initiates D 09/14 H wants to R 12/14 Still bungling our way through R
