This is terrifying - I hope you understand

[Nitty]

I am unconcerned about her intentionally doing harm. I just can't stomach (right now) the thought of telling them that this is something mutual when in reality, it is not.

I had such a visceral emotional reaction when I heard Mr. Gritty was telling our friends that our separation was mutual, that we'd been unhappy for years. I got so angry. I couldn't stop myself, I would say, no, it wasn't mutual, but I hope he figures himself out and comes back to me.

I can't imagine how I'd feel if my kids were younger and believed I had an equal part in breaking Mom and Dad up.

And I find myself not caring. Whether she is there, here, or in a car wreck. That can't be right, can it? Is my heart just too tired to keep fighting alone?

Perhaps the fact she's with somebody you respect has a part in it? Perhaps you would feel differently if you knew she was spending the weekend with someone who was a not a friend to your marriage?