Wife dropped the bomb; doing in house separation

[HopeTex]

I have to admit, my mindset the last few days has been that this is over and there is no hope left, ever. It is still painful inside, but outwardly I am just calmly discussing things with her like who gets the couch, or the entertainment center. I am not even sure I am DB'ing right now. I am just accepting the D and negotiating out the details with her and finding an apartment, etc.

Granted, we may have some conflict when it comes to deciding some financial issues and the custody, but ibasically right now we are cooperating like a healthy divorced couple. And that feels good, but it also feels terrible.