AND to add to that.... s17 has not responded to xh at all today. I don't know what xh said to s the other day when he was upset, but s must not be happy with him. S does not like to talk to me about it (and we have a very/close r, but I just think this whole thing is so upsetting, he does not really know how to handle it. He does go to c, though). S showed me his response to xh when xh texted that he missed them so much. S said, "I don't blame you. I'm cute as hell." (and I think that's the last thing s has said to xh) OMG... that kid is something else.