Pilot,
Remember that the emotions of a WAW are entirely crazy. The "logic" they go through is absolutely crazy. Eventually they come through it, maybe years down the line.

At that point, forgiveness is the act of accepting someone for who they are today. Hopefully she'll get to that point where she is acting sane enough today to be accepted.

Me: 35
Her: 33
D : 16
S : 9
Together: 14 years
Married: 12
She left 4/14/2014
Separated: 5/25/2014
OM Confirmed 7/2014
She filed 8/7/2014
I Filed 10/21/2014
Divorce final 2/12/2015