Keeping it real

[pilot]

well, hold on. it is not right of her to ask and expect those answer yet not offer anything in return. she should be the one to offer her thoughts first (but do not hold the line on that)

Also, I would caution about working towards R if there was still an OM as the two concepts do not mix well. She either wants to work on your relationship, or she wants to be in another.

the problem with answering her honestly, as you may want to, is it 'may' do nothing other than reassure her she still has you, and she will continue on her way without ever saying a word about her feelings. My W would do this.

Maybe a way to reply is to say you have already said so much, and if she wants to talk to you about something then you will LISTEN with an open heart.