WAW, she had an affair, separating to "think"

[jb13529]

Hi all, the fact that I am here means life just got real tough real quick.
My wife and I have been together for 7 years, married for 2. About 3 weeks ago we got into a discussion and she said she needed space, that she never felt like she got to "choose" me, as I was her first kiss, lover, everything. (we met in college)
I discovered that she had an affair in early June, and that it is "over" but they are still friends. She still wants him of course, but she isn't telling me this. they are coworkers, which is my biggest issue, as she won't get over this any time soon. She is moving to her own apt in a week for a couple months to sort things out.
What she is telling me is that she never dated anyone, never felt like she really knew enough to choose me, and that this feeling has been growing.

I've started the DB as best I can to both deal with the hurt and better interact with her without blowing up. I've got another week until she moves out, and I just want to keep things pleasant. she is sleeping in the guest bedroom at the moment.

Anyway, I am needing help, support, and I have questions as well, but one post a time is best!