Can you clarify? I don't see in your texts where you specifically said, "I'd like to see him, when would be a good time?"
True that she didn't come out and offer that to you... but you also didn't clearly ask for that...at least not that I could see?
And maybe text is not the best tool for that? What if you emailed instead, something like, "W, I've been thinking and worrying about dog. I miss him and would very much like to see him and get more details about his condition. Would ___ be a good time? If not, please let me know when would work for you."
You have a tendency to have a victim mentality, and I see a lot in your posts about how your wife "didn't do" this or that... But I think you have some P/A tendencies, too.
