Card29- My H is the kind of person you can not tell what to do. I have read other material that makes agrees with your suggestion of forcing H to end the affair or cut off all ties.
I know my H personality and if I were to do that- he would say forget it and not even try. He would think that I am pulling away and not wanting to commit to my marriage. I tried not communicating with him for a couple of weeks and he became very frustrated and angry with me- and ready to pull the plug. Is that supposed to be the effect of ending communication???
Joe1981- This A has been going on almost 5 months now. They live together... I pray everyday that God will end the A. GF is married too. I am concerned with Card29's comment that he will think I approve of the A- or that it is okay that he have a GF. I am working so hard on changing how I interact with him and try to stay so positive and not induce drama- I don't mention the A or go anywhere near the topic. H has told me GF is insecure... I am sure GF is clinging to him with everything she can....
