Dealing with WAW part 4

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Ok, help. I just got off the phone with the friend of my W who I saw at the store today. She sent me a fb message because she saw me online and wanted to talk on the phone. So she calls and wow, what an interesting/hurtful experience that was.

We talked for about 2 hours so I will never be able to recap the entire conversation here. But here are some of the points she wanted to talk about.

1. She said she had pressed my W to spill the dirt on me. Say some of the bad things about me. The only thing she said was what I had told my W a few days before our S began and I caught her with OM in the car. I had said I hoped our kids never marry someone like her because I would hate to see them go through what she is putting me through. Other than that she said nothing negative about me or our relationship.

2. She said my W explained to her that the reason she is dragging out the D by not serving me papers, and waiting 3-4 more months to file here in our new state is that she wants to spare my feelings and not be rude by rushing this D through quickly. She thinks it would be easier on me if it did not happen so quick. That she knew I was hurting and did not want to rub salt in the wound.

3. She said that my W talked about some other guy she knew from her childhood in her old hometown while she was living there this summer and had a crush on him.

4. She said that my W was talking about the LF I had invited to my kids bday a week after our S began and was just wondering about it. My wife called her an ex gf.

5. The night my W and I had a great date and got really close to taking it physical, and I threw cold water on it, she told this friend (who she stayed with) that she had wanted to stay with me until I got to talking about the schools and whatnot and then thought nevermind.

6. W had talked to her the day our S began and was talking about OM and how she thought someday there may be a relationship with this guy. (W insisted nothing had ever happened between them)

There are a million other things I know I will remember and post, but I have to say, I am feeling really down. I do not know why really. I mean, none of this is new stuff. And this was not even a conversation with W, it was with her friend. I guess I am just confused/hurt/tired? The part about her reason WHY she has not served me just does not make sense to me. Sandi? Is this possibly a valid reason? Ugg...