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Thanks, Elsa. Makes be laugh (in a sad way) that you could provide a positive or a negative interpretation for each of those phrases. I agree - it's just so tough to know. I do hope that there will be some clarity at some point.

Let me ask you - does your H get annoyed when you ask questions? Mine does sometimes and it's frustrating because it is my honest attempt at trying to understand what he meant. I can probably work on my method (reading Non-Violent Communication for some ideas) but I really just wish he could give me the benefit of the doubt sometimes.