Living with WAW who will not leave

[Casey]

I am not sure how much longer I can continue to wait for my W to snap out of the fog she is in. The other day I heard from a dear friend with whom I had a platonic relationship with prior to meeting my W. We are the same age, and if I had not met my W, she would probably have been the one I would have married since our relationship had been headed in that direction. Anyway, she is still single, and I have but to ask and she would come here to live with me. If I had heard from her any other time from before BD I would have not entertained the thought. But this finds me in a very weak place. W apparently signed a lease and will be moving out next week.

So I have a decision to make. I cannot take care of my son on my own and I was considering bringing my mother here to live with me if W was to actually leave. My friend is aware of my situation and the drama she would become a part of if she were to join me. I have already drafted the invitation and because this will be my Rubicon should I send it, I am giving it a last thought before I do so. Once I make this choice the door will be forever closed to W and I will begin divorce proceedings.

I am considering telling W that she has one day to decide whether or not she will continue to be a part of my life or I will take action to move on for good. A part of me feels that she deserves this last appeal while another part of me feels that the course of action that she had taken to date has shown where her true feelings lie, and any answer she gives will be under duress and not to be trusted.

What have I overlooked?