Mighty, Ss06, and Georgiabelle -- I can't thank you enough for your posts. I am so glad other people exist that understand this madness. Mighty, I am getting so much better at reminding myself to not get so attached to a particular outcome - that is a direct result of my sitch. I've done that most of my life and all that brings is frustration, because so many things in life don't go 'our way.' Learning to just roll with it, whatever 'it' is, is becoming second-nature. This I am so grateful for.

And GB, funny you mention kick-boxing and jumping rope! I just jumped rope when I was volunteering at the YMCA last week! It felt great. Hadn't done it in many years. A little girl and I were having a contest. I got to 19 before I missed. I told her I have to dig out my jump rope at home! And the kickboxing, I am actually looking for a class right now. Have been wanting to try it, but tough to find a good one where you actually get to HIT something. I need that. I am by no means a violent person, but that just feels GOOD when so much is bottled up inside.

Said it before and I'll keep saying it -- this board is saving my life and helping me get to the next phase, one I never planned. Thank God for all of you. Prayers for all this evening...


Me 53, XH 57
M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids
BD June '13
H moved out July '13
Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14
H filed for D Nov. '14
D March '15