To put it another way, I feel like what I am doing is good in terms of structuring a healthy relationship with a soon-to-be ex wife. I am just not sure if I should be doing something to different if I want to ALSO improve my chances of her changing her mind and wanting to be my W, either before or after a D.
Me:42 W:41 M:12 T:3 D7, D7, S5 Sep#1 Winter 2012 for 4 months W divorce bomb 6/9/14 Started "in-house separation" 7/2014 W files for D 8/28/14 I move out 9/27/14