Update: Gubu, now resembling H in some respects, has talked at me quite a bit. Related a story how he broke up a dog fight at the Pet Store. (Funny, shopping for the animals we always did together.)
I listen, validate...he pretty much has one-sided conversations.
In our previous life, he'd hardly say a word. I always felt like I was pulling teeth to get him to converse. At its worst, he'd only respond to direct questions, and even then giving one word answers or grunts. I'm trying to remember if this started before OW or not, but I think it did. ------------------------------------------------------
He asked before coming upstairs. (Good). I just did my thing and pretty much ignored him, laughing and playing with the pups, watching a stupid TV show that cracked me up.
I'm just happy crappy!
Every now and then we'd exchange a few words about this or that, just dog stuff or the deck stain.
I keep my responses brief, light-hearted, sweet, and upbeat.
I am thinking of myself like his little sister!!!
(I read on one of my pal's threads--maybe mdu?--- to treat him like a brother, and if "light and breezy" draws him closer, keep it up.)
There's something incestuous about that, but it's workable. Lately GUBU reminds me an awful lot of my depressed, angry, divorced, bitter, messed up older brother! -------------------------------------------------------------
I'm in the bedroom getting ready to go to my swing dance with friends. I have a new (vintage) Chinese style dress in turquoise that fits me like a glove. (Good color on blondes)
That, plus my hair done up and some heels, perfume and the whole shebang... I am going to make SURE he notices!
Let's see if any of his online 50+ dating site ladies can compete with THIS "Bird in the Hand"!!
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Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
