I am here. I have been unable to get on the forum until just now.
To answer questions:
My wife divorced her first husband because she cheated on him. They married young and she married him for his money (her words not mine).
When she divorced him she refused to take anything. She took full responsibility for the divorce. She said it was wrong to marry him and wrong to cheat on him. She said she wasn't going to continue her wrongs by taking half of the assets. She said he was a good man and didn't deserve to be treated so disrespectfully.
She divorced her second husband after 11 months because he was physically abusive.
As you know, my wife has rejected all contact attempts I've made since I filed legal separation papers on August 1.
She finally called last night about 8:00 pm. She left a message saying the dog was ill and she was rushing him to the vet.
She also sent two texts. Both while she was at the animal hospital. The texts were at 9:30 pm and 10:15 pm.
Here is what they said:
Wife: (9:30 pm) Dog is running a fever but the vet says he does not have virus. She is running x-rays on his stomach.
Wife: (10:15 pm) Vet is hydrating. Giving him meds and pain killer. Hope to be home in the next hour. Looks like he will be fine.
I was out-of-town at my sisters house when she called so I didn't answer my phone. I also didn't listen to her voice mail.
By the time she send the text messages I was in bed. I didn't see them until 6:30 this morning.
If I knew she was calling about the dog I would have called her back immediately. I swear.
I texted her immediately this morning at 6:22 am.
Me: (6:22 am) My stupid phone does not get coverage in the apartment then it suddenly works. Just got your message. I don't want to call as not even 7:00 am. I will call and text later. If he needs anything let me know. Thanks for contacting me.
Me: (6:30 am) Did they say why a fever?
Me: (6:35 text) If you get the bill I will pay it and do the insurance.
Me (6:40 am) Dad picked this weekend for the football game. I can drive up there and give them their tickets and be back if dog is still sick. Let me know his condition and I can do whatever is needed.
Me (7:00 am) I don't think my last text went through so you may get duplicates. Send me the bill and I will pay it and do insurance.
Me (7:05 am) Dad and the guys choose today for football game. I can run up and deliver the tickets but if you need me to do anything with dog let me know. My schedule can be what he needs.
Me (8:15 am) If you get me the bill I will pay it and do the insurance.
Me (8:20 am) I tried all these texts about 6:30 but they don't seem to have gone so just redid.
At 9:30 she finally responded. Here is her text:
Wife: Nothing is needed. Me: Is he ok? What was the diagnosis? Wife: Intestine issues. He's on meds. Me: Does he have to have surgery? Do you need help with the meds? Wife: No to both. Me: Ok. Let me know if you guys need anything. I would appreciate it you would keep me updated.
Our dog has always had health problems. He was a rescue animal. They would have put him to sleep if we wouldn't have adopted him.
One of his issues is he eats rubber and plastic. Last Christmas the vet had to cut open his stomach to remove numerous objects. He almost died. Between my wife and I, we literally took 3 weeks off work after the operation to give him 24 hour nursing care. My wife used most of her vacation time caring for him.
Since I couldn't get any info from my wife I called the hospital. But they said they could give me any info. Since when?
Last year the dog got sick after I moved out and they shared info with me. So I know my wife must have told them to deny me access.
I think this is very cruel. I am very hurt.
I feel she is using the dog to get even with me for filing separation papers.
