Need to figure out how to move forward (thread #4)

[shodan]

I think why i get so depressed is that in many ways, we have had a great marriage. Of course, she has said things to me that have stung and made me realize it was not as great as I thought. But it was not horrible and in fact it was better than good (at least I saw it that way). We have had a lot of fun together over the years. And this past vacation was super fun. I mean, laughing, joking and plain old good old fashion family fun. So when we left the vaca on Tuesday, I was on cloud nine. But then Wednesday morning things seemed weird, she was on her phone more, and she started being very curt to me. By Thursday, I knew something had changed. And here we are on Saturday, only speaking for 30 seconds to say I would take my D10 to soccer.

she is pulling away just as much as I am pulling away from her. Except she is happy because she has the OM and I am miserable.

But I know if our M has any chance of survival, I need to back off and go dark. I need to be patient.

However, I feel for my kids. They keep asking to "go do X as a family" and I just tend to hedge my answers. They want their family together and right now have no idea about our switch. But to go dark and show her that I am pulling away, I cannot do things as a family, which su%ks for them.