Thanks for all the votes of confidence but no, I don't believe I'm doing great. You'll see why as you read on. Not handling anything well. Wishing I could really detach.
And the only way I could feel that way is to stop being in love. What do other people think?
Thanks to everybody who responded to me. We have all been surviving an onslaught. Everybody's stories are so similar!
Jim Conway wrote that MLC is like adolescence, only a teenager is limited in the amount of permanent damage he can do. A teenager can't initiate a divorce or blow the 401K in Vegas, for instance. So I view a MLCer as being a teenager -- that is, a teenager wearing a black trenchcoat, a bad attitude, and looking to get himself some automatic rifles.
Remember that Zits cartoon? I used to clip that comic and put it on my refrigerator door. Everybody I knew who had teenage boys did the same. Because teenage boys always acted the same way. They say the same things, do the same stuff. It's universal.
If I had artistic talent I would make a comic book of MLC behavior. Perhaps you all would clip my comics and post them to your refrigerator, too, and say, "Ha, it's like she is living in my house! She KNOWS."
Maybe if we could always see the humor in it rather than the despair, we could handle it better.
After all, when my boys did a typical teenager tantrum, I was sympathetic, told them they'd feel better soon, and got on with what I had to do that day. Even when they told me, "I hate you!"
But then, my boys couldn't legally dissolve their relationship with me, or find another mom to live with and make me split everything I own down the middle so they could give it to that other mom.
And that analogy is getting a bit weird so I'll just let it go for now.
A boatload of stuff has happened since I wrote last. It's a lot so I'll break it up into posts.
M:54, H:55 T:33, M:27 12/13 BD: EA 01/14 BD: PA, H leaves 03/14 H & OW break up 05/14 H says he will file for D 08/14 H initiates D 09/14 H wants to R 12/14 Still bungling our way through R
