Amoeba Whisperer: "Stay in your OWN Petrie Dish!"

[GoatGal]

GUBU has arrived... I am only slightly stressing.

Thoughts: My "I'm taking all the time the law allows" has been my FIRM BOUNDARY since all this started.

I'm thinking that back-pedaling on this will convey the message that I might be pushed on other things too.

GUBU has been very accepting of my position and appears to understand, perhaps even be relieved that things are progressing slowly because he may be a bit confused about what is happening here.

(Going back to therapy, emotions all over the place, acting pouty, not getting his own apartment, reaching out often and strangely, wanting to be here....and a lot more.)

Just a theory ^^^ but he hasn't been acting like someone who is in a real hurry to "move on" no matter what he SAYS.

So I'm thinking to stand firm on this one.

It *seems* like a total Starsky/Mr.Bond line in the sand, if I've been reading them correctly.
(Don't want to put words in your mouths, guys!)

So I'm thinking: "If it ain't broke, don't fix it."

However, if he pushes, I won't stonewall.

I'll say something like: "You're saying it's really important to you to move this along. Sounds like we both have a lot to think about."

And if he pushes, I'll say: "I don't agree that divorce is the only solution to our problems, but if that's what you want, I can't stop you.
However, my stance is still ^^^ (the above)."


And if he brings up moving back here:

"I can see why you'd think that moving here would solve some immediate problems. Can you tell me more about how you see that working out?"

Then: "My well-being is the most important thing to me right now. Under the current circumstances, I don't think it would be healthy for me to be under the same roof."

Then it's BOUNDARY TIME!

1. No goal of R, just see if we can live together at this point.

2. NO OTHER PEOPLE INVOLVED--online or in real life.

3. Common courtesy about coming and going, asking to cover, etc.

4. We BOTH stay in therapy separately.

I'd love to add "withdraw the D" but that's his "safety blanket" to keep me under his thumb, and this whole mess at a distance, so it won't happen. It's his power play and he needs to believe he's got it.

I know that.


??????

----GGG
PS: Who is looking bootylicious, (what's left of it), smelling great, exuding a PMA, looking forward to my great weekend.

Who's stressing? Not THIS GOAT GAL!!!


OK, maybe just a little...