The Waiting One (and tired of it)

[Georgiabelle]

Ats,

My parents got married at 19 and were together until my dad's death lady year. My stbxh's parents have been together 46 yrs. Its like speaking a foreign language to people who have never been faced with or been involved in D. Maid oui! I do think some views of marriage are an evolution of culture and generational. I never recall my parents saying "x didn't make them happy" or "if they just x they would be happy." That stuff is our *new* culture perpetuated by the media and the belief that if x, THEN you will be happy. Whatever *happy* is for the moment, of course.

I know this is difficult, however do you really want your h to *stay* simply due to financial repercussions. Doesn't sound like a legit reason to not get divorced. Actually I take that back. It's a legit reason not to get divorced but not the * real* reason one recommits to the r.

I would suggest you shift focus on what Clark is doing or may do. Protect yourself first and foremost financially. Your h is a big boy. He had to figure out his own stuff.

Sending you a cheer of college FB Saturday:-)