Im separated 7 months now and been married for 7 years and have a 4 yr old.
Things are so complicated and seem all over the place.
I left our home for safety reasons but came back and said I wasnt leaving our marriage and that I wanted him to get help. Now its turned into everything being all my fault because I left.
I have tried to reconcile for 6 months with no luck. I have left him alone, done 180's, been kind, had hardly any conflict with him and given him everything.
he has gone from hating me, to suggesting lunch as friends (even though Im still waiting) He did get the papers for divorce but now says he will stay married but remain separated.
He has started to be nicer to me, asks me how I am when I drop off child and has responded well through texts this past month with wishing me a good day too in response to my texts saying have a good day.
So there seems to be hope all mixed in this big horrible mess.
Also from things my child says about "his other mummy", Im fairly sure there is some kind of relationship happening which I am trying not to worry about although it hurts like HELL!
I am really hoping to get some more pointers from the book when it arrives and also from this forum too
and also from this forum too 