I sent my W a text today saying if she wanted to bring the kids to the beach (where I live) to play for the day on Monday we can do that. And since I was supposed to get them Tuesday, the kids can just stay here. I told her after the beach day, we can leave the kids with my dad and go watch the Miami/Louisville game somewhere. She replied "ok, I will let you know"

As for the touching and physical contact, who knows what I will do. I typically just play it by ear and see how things are with her and with me. She has seen receptive when I have not been, and I have been willing when she seems non receptive. Guess I will just wait till we are both on the same page.

Igit, I did stop her from what could have turned into something much more physical a couple months ago for that very reason. I am not ready to just jump into an R, physical or emotional until I know she is willing to work on things. Not interested in a one night stand with my W. She has to earn the booty. haha

Casey, I have no idea if I am doing it right in my situation. Often times I think I am doing everything I should not be...but thanks for the vote of confidence!

Lisa as for harmless flirting and friendliness, I pretty much do that. I am a friendly guy by nature, as well as fun flirty. Not an overbearing flirty, but fun and happy. haha, I have no idea how to say that.

Last edited by pilot; 08/30/14 04:45 AM.

Me: 42
W: 32
Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
A discovered 04-03-2014
W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me
I filed D 12-02-2014
S 05-31-14
Divorced 5-19-16