Just an update to register that the script of this mlc process is followed - with some variations around time and degree- pretty much to the letter.
After about 6 months of nc, XH has re-appeared via email. An out of the blue request: "When can I come to the house to collect some files and a computer".
I let that one go through to the ether. Thought about emailing back: "How about never". But no. Settlement was a long time ago buddy. You had the chance to get everything you wanted and you took it.
Anyway, then he phoned me to ask about an email he'd received from S15's school enquiring when he'd be returning after a bout of illness. I explained that he'd had the flu, but was back at school today. No mention of the computer and files.
Then he started phoning S15. Repeatedly, even while he was in school. This after 6 months of nc with the kids as well.
In his last call he asked S15 to come out to dinner that night.
S15 blew up. He said his Dad was sounding so pleased with himself, and happy, and was acting like nothing had happened between them: "Hey S15 why don't you come out to dinner tonight?"
S15 ended up telling him, in no uncertain terms, why he didn't want to go out to dinner with him.
Few minutes later, I get a call at work. It's XH insisting that I do something about S15's rudeness and demanding to know "what he's been told" to produce such an outburst. !!!!!
He insisted that we all meet up this weekend to discuss the problem.
Ho hum.
I suspect that this latest is just XH's need to keep us in his life in some way - he seems to need the drama and conflict. My gut says ignore him, but this doesn't seem DB. Not sure that I'm even db-ing any more anyway.
