That's the most confusing statement ever: "let's work things out but not take any action". I don't know if it's a red flag (reminder: I'm not a vet!!) but maybe he's just interested in the status quo? Like work things out without changing current living arrangements, etc? I don't know. I'd flat out ask what the heck he means by that. I don't think you're expected to read minds and assuming is super dangerous as this venture. Ask. Can't hurt, might help.
"hey, what'd you mean by "let's work things out but not take action"? I just want to make sure I'm clear on it and really understand your words."
