Pilot, you are going about it the right way for where you are in your situation. Mine requires some tough love and a little pain to move from the comfortable (for her) rut that has been allowed to be established.

I stopped trying to touch my W a while ago; part of it is respect since that is what she does not want at present, but a bigger part is appearing needy and weak. Since touching is what I desire and it is not reciprocated by her, every time I tried to do so it just showed her that she still had me on that leash and that she didn't need to change anything to keep the status quo.

Me37, W30, S7
Married 10yrs 05/11/04
ILYBINILWY 22/09/13
Disc. OM1 26/09/13
Disc. STD from OM2 03/02/14
Affair Confession 21/06/14

W and I share same apartment (for a few more days).
W isn't pushing for D.