Amoeba Whisperer: "Stay in your OWN Petrie Dish!"

[GoatGal]

kml,

I wanted to add---

Part of the above ^^^ was me taking control of my life, and not allowing his craziness to force me to make major life decisions I was in no condition to make.

The "experts" say to make no major changes for at least a year after a major trauma/life-altering event.

And I agree.

He can want what he wants, on whatever timeline he wants, but I will not be pushed into any action which is not in my best interest.

My health and well-being are the most important thing to me.
Much more important than GUBU and my relationship with him.


Saving my marriage is important, but not at the expense of myself.

Does that make sense?
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That said, after a few false starts, I have consistently supported his decision to divorce. I don't want to be married to a man who behaves this way.

I wrote a letter, stating that it was probably for the best, but that I would take the two years to do exactly what I said about making decisions and getting grounded. I followed this up with verbal support for his decision many times.

He seemed to understand that then, and has never pushed to finalize it.
There are many things he might have done that would have pretty much forced me to speed it up, but he has very pointedly not done those things.

He hasn't even gotten his own place.
He's still waiting...for something.
(It can't be because he thinks I'll be moving out soon, because he knows better.)

But this is all conjecture.
For all I know, he's decided "it's time" and now he's going to apply the screws to me after all!

It's been a year since he's been in any kind of R (that's with OW, I can't count our M).
Maybe he's feeling the pinch and wants to move ahead. I know he's lonely.
That's a FACT.

I guess we'll find out what the "talk" will be about.

The last time I got my knickers in a twist he just wanted to see how I was.

Now I see that was a false start. He had an agenda, but chickened out I guess.
Now he's at it again.

Can't wait!!!!


---GGG