Amoeba Whisperer: "Stay in your OWN Petrie Dish!"

[GoatGal]

Well, kml, I hope you're wrong but it's good to be prepared.

I don't see a real benefit for him pushing through a divorce at this time.
He's an emotional mess, hates to be alone...not thinking clearly.
Not that that stops them.

I know that mature women who have their act together are not going to get into a relationship with him until he's divorced...and then some.

Of course, him not being divorced yet is hardly the only thing running them off at the moment!

When I kicked him out the day he served me (he wanted to stay), I said:
"Get HELP or GET OUT."

Well, now he's getting help.
Hopefully it's not the "just get rid of your wife, close that chapter, ignore everything that's clearly an issue, and try your luck with other women." type of help.

Could happen though. I've heard some stories on this board. Just today, in fact!

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I like the idea of taking him off balance by going in HIS direction.

I have already told him my "plans" as they are, several times.
He knows what I want--in a settlement, in a partner, for my life.
I don't think he's forgotten.

I told him I was going to take all the time the law allowed to get centered, look around at where I might want to go.
He remembers this too, I'm certain. I just said it last week.

(Or I might want to stay right here with a roommate, either way, I'm not doing ANYTHING until I HAVE TO.)

I have already agreed that if he wanted to divorce, I wasn't going to try and stop him.
I don't want or need to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't love and value me.
I do not want to be with him unless he works on his issues, learns to cope better and be the kind of partner I deserve.
He knows this as well.

Right now I'm in no condition to even THINK about moving three states away, packing my stuff, rehoming my animals...going through the divorce itself.

I have clearly stated this several times, and I KNOW he heard me.
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At this time in my journey, I'm just trying to get back on my feet while GUBU is doing the Voodoo Death Dance all around the house...

It's all I can do to sleep and eat properly, GAL and keep my head and heart straight.
Packing, and doing yard sales, and moving my studio are out of the question at this time.

He can't push a divorce through until Feb 2016, so I have time.
It's going fast, though.

Just because HE might want to speed things up, it's not MY problem.


My response will be:

"I don't believe divorce is the only solution, but I will not stop you.
However, I will not help you either."

It will be upon HIM to finish the process at that date if that's what he wants.

Meanwhile, I'm sitting tight, as is MY RIGHT in this state.

BOOM!


---GGG