Yes which says to go dark and 100% limit contact to only things about the kids.

I am advocating to be too nice, even though it is a 180 from where I have been.

Me: 40, W: 40
M: 15, T: 18
D - 10, S - 7
D announcement 6/7/2014
A discovered 7/20/2014 (but denied by W)
Still living together and sharing same bed