First post - My WAH story

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The advice I'm getting from people here on the boards is that it is our business and since I want to R, we shouldn't be making this big announcement about D to people, especially since he hasn't filed. But, my H has said he is DONE and definitely wants to D. This is not merely a S to him. One of the things that pushed him farther away before was that he felt I was not respecting his decision. He felt like by me trying to hide it from people, I was not honoring the fact that he no longer wants to be M and that I was not accepting the inevitable, that we are divorcing.

H feels it would be wrong to just change our status on Facebook without telling our mutual friends about it beforehand. I agree with this actually. It is clear that he wants to change his Facebook status soon and present himself as a single person. Our families know. My friends, who are not connected to him, already know. His friends, who are not connected to me, already know. The only people who don't are our mutual friends. I do agree they should and feel sort of bad that they will be the last to know. What I'm trying to figure out is the best way to tell them. I do see the value in us presenting a united front by sending an email out jointly. It shows our friends that we do not want them to have to choose sides and that we are still friendly with one another. That we are not angry and bitter. It is important, if I do want us to R, that H feel that I feel that as well. By me insisting on NOT sending out this letter, I fear that it makes me seem like I'm engaging in more-of-the-same behavior and that I come off as angry and bitter, which I have been trying really hard these last couple of weeks to disprove.

Do you guys see why part of me wants to send out this stupid email? However, I get what you guys are saying.