OK, I went and talked to my friend and she pointed out that it does seem classier if we send something out together, like we're committed to staying civil with one another and working on things together. I do agree with that. Here's what I came up with, having modified what H had drafted and making it feel more true:

To our dear friends and family,

Sometimes life takes an unexpected turn, and for us, it means going our separate ways. We know it will be quite a surprise to many you and in some ways it is to us as well. Although we are not on the same page about our impending divorce and are sad to part ways, we remain friends and want what is best for each other. Reach out to us should you wish.

We love each and every one of you.

With both our hearts,
Jacket and H

Does this seem less gooey??


Me: 35, H: 37, no kids
Together since 2002, Married since 2007
IDKIILY: 2/2013
MC: 5/2013-6/2014
H stated he was REALLY done: 4/2014
I moved out 7/6/14
H filed end of 8/2014 but still hasn't served me