I was doing so good

[u-turn]

dawgy-
I think that you really have to evaluate what you think will help you with your goals or if your goals have changed. If something is causing you to have troubles staying on course, try to remove yourself from those situations (this may seem like anti-gal). Evaluate whether you can have that sympathetic ear from a female friend without thinking it has to go farther and keep you from staying on the high road.

It is just like with snooping - snooping hurts you when you do it and tends to not have an affect on moving toward your goals.