Sometimes pursuing and testing the waters are the same. I think that you have to test and maybe push a limit or two on occasion, especially if you are going out and being with each other. It's not really pursuing, unless you have expectations of getting so etching in return. Just use it as a way to see maybe where she is. At worst she backs off a bit more, at best it doesn't bother her and you know what you can and can't do.
