First post - My WAH story

[Jacket]

So I had to break NC this morning and ask H if he was going to return the library books. He said he was going to return them a week and a half ago, and he still hasn't. They're due tomorrow. So I text and he responds that he will return them today. He then follows it with this: "Have you had time to look at the email? I'd like to send it out."

My immediate knee jerk response is fury. I didn't take your advice, Lisa, and instead stated my truth: "I'm not OK with the version you've drafted. While some of it rings true, the main part of it does not. It does not at all reflect what you and I discussed it was going to say."

H: "I changed what I wanted to say and in the end felt it was best to keep it simple which is just to make the announcement."

Me: "I also think it's too long and contains too many personal details. I don't think it's necessary to state that we went through MC. You had said you were fine with saying that you were the one who wants the divorce and that I do not. The way you have it written makes it sound like we have mutually decided. I don't feel like it was kept simple at all. It's really long. And I'm all for keeping things simple, but the tone of it does not feel true to me at all. The way it reads to me is that you want it to seem like we've mutually decided to divorce. It seems like you still don't want to take ownership over the fact that you are the one asking for it." Yes, I was redundant in my response, but I was and am still angry about it.

H: "I don't think this letter should be us airing out our differences. It should be simply facts. I am fine with making it simpler. It's not beneficial to either of us to start stating he said, she said here. We'll just come off as bitter. I am fine with being the one asking for it."

I am still so angry and cannot think about how to calmly reply. Can anyone help here?