Sorry Ats, My state is bad that way as well. It's almost like they WANT people to get D! No way to separate, you're either M or not, only a 60 day cooling off period, if your S leaves you still have a legal obligation when it comes to their debts and such just as if they were still there. I see all these other states with so many rules and things in place that seem to give both parties a chance to stop and rethink but in my state they make it seem like ending a 20 year M is nothing.
I can understand the alimony (my state doesn't even allow it! The other person has to be "unable" to work at ANY job!) but the child support thing to me seems like he should HAVE to take care of his kids whether M or not! What about where a child is born out of wedlock? Do they say they don't have to pay support then? I'm finding out just how little today's society cares about M!
Hang in there Ats. You will get through this. In the end you have to do what is best for you and the kids and leave the MLCer to figure out their own chit. It's sad but little that can be done.
