Atsababy, Yes, detaching would be very easy if I just moved to Italy and lived in a lovely villa like Diane Lane did in that movie, "Under the Tuscan Sun".
In the film, her marriage blew up, (I think her H was a chit), her heart was broken. She did the ultimate GAL--- she took off to Italy for a guided tour, decided to step of the bus in a small rural town that just resonated with her. And she stayed.
She bought an ancient, run down villa, started making it livable, had some awful moments where things went terribly wrong when she questioned her choices. She was sometimes afraid--of being on her own, of things that go "bump" in the night. She struggled with the language, the locals and their impression of this single American woman, found "Romance", and was exhilarated...
Her experienced broke her down, but as she healed and grew, she was rebuilt even stronger as an individual, and as a woman. She arrived at midlife a confident and resilient person in her prime.
She lost a husband (and the romance has its own story) but she found a home--she MADE A HOME-- and she became part of a community.
She build her new life herself, and she made her own happiness.
A great example for us DBers!
So is "The Bionic Man/Woman"
Circumstances may have destroyed parts of us, but those are being replaced with improved parts that make us stronger, better, wiser----and better looking!
There's another great movie I want to watch again.
It's about an English Woman who finds herself single at mid-life and travels to Greece, where she re-discovers herself, finds love, swims naked in the ocean, eats a lot of great Greek food overlooking the water, drinks a lot of Retsina...all this feeds her soul which has been starved for many years. She positively GLOWS as she too, comes into her own in the second half of life.
I wish I could remember the name. The title has her name in it... I think Peter Coyote is in it too.
And there's a foreign film entitled "The Wall" that was inspiring to me as well. (Scandanavian...?)
It's about a mid-life woman who finds herself suddenly trapped alone in a rural area behind an invisible wall, cut off from the rest of the world. She survives by strength, mental preparation, and sheer will.
I watched that film maybe seven times during this past winter when I was first up here on the farm on my own, often with no power, chopping wood for heat...melting ice to water for the animals, to bathe. Playing my ukulele by candlelight, waking with the sun and going to sleep when it was dark.
No one to talk to, no GUBU... peaceful, and so much work to do I didn't have much time to think about things.
Looking back, I actually enjoyed that time. Never thought I'd be saying that...but it's true.
I think about ssonas. Her circumstances were similar. I wonder how she's doing out there in the wilds of Ireland...
So, three great films about adult women on their own, coping with the changes and making the most of things.
They're GALing, BABY! Just like us.
Like it or not, we're coming out on the other end of our experience better, stronger, and with more coping skills than the average therapist. Which, hopefully, we'll never be called upon to use in similar circumstances ever again. Once is enough for me!
---GGG
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
