The only advice I have is to be patient and don't make any rush decisions. That and to start changing the things about you she'd like to see changed.

And keep posting here. You'll get more replies at some point. And some vets will start helping.

Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.