Bumping this up. Ganb8te, thanks again for your reply, which was lost during the board shutdown.
On Wednesday night, I spoke briefly to my H. He scheduled a MC appointment for us with the new C. The appointment is next week. I asked H if he is now ready to work on the M. He said, "I don't think so. I just don't think that our interactions have changed enough for me to heal. I know that must sound crazy to you, but that's how I feel." He acknowledged that we have had very little conflict during the S, but he still anxious that conflict will erupt at any moment. (To which I want to say: That's YOUR problem, not mine, and oh by the way, why did you never go to IC as you promised you would. Of course, I did not say this.)
Instead, I asked him what he would need to feel ready, and he said, "Space and time." So, I'm going to go completely dark for the next week (except for the necessary exchanges re: D7). It's going to be difficult, but I'm committed to doing it. (Even though, as I said in Ganb8te's thread, my H has said that he feels less anxious after he talks to me, and I'm skeptical that space and time will actually help him feel better.)
I finally asked him if he has intended for our S to be therapeutic. He asked what I meant by that, and I said, "That the S is a time for you to heal, and then you want to come back to the M." He said yes, that's what he's wanted all along.
In other news, I made a new friend and I joined a S/D support group. I'm really going to be working on PMA and GAL over the next week!
