What to do when an EA involved?

[bdub]

Hoju,
Stop doing the same old thing. In our R we almost always talked at night, lying in bed. Just recently I figured out that is a very dangerous thing. Its an emotional place, and the timing is bad because you have "shut down" for the night. We now go outside (we live on a few hundred acre farm) and sit and talk. Since we changed locations we have not had a single major blow up. When emotional topics arise we seem to be able to handle them better. Also, I don't think there is a thing wrong with stopping the conversation. I have said " I'm sorry but I cannot continue to participate in this conversation productively. If we continue my anger/emotion will get the best of me and we will end up blowing up. We can finish addressing this issue at xxx time."