NewB3 - I'm not a vet, can only offer my support for your situation. The WAW is getting the house and you are getting out. Yet she wants to parade around semi-dressed? That's not cool. My spouse and I have had one intimate night since she dropped the bomb and I honestly believe that she was either saying goodbye or maybe "later." It certainly didn't lead to reconciliation.
From the outside looking in, it seems that her brain has temporarily become a "bag full of cats" to quote Bruce Banner's estimation of Loki. I know that my DR coach encourages me to welcome an emotional connection, as that has been cited as one of the reasons my W is leaving. But what your W is doing seems a tease.
Set some boundaries and keep GAL'g. Or ask her what her behaviors mean - experiment; what's the worst that can happen? She kicks you out anyway? She knows you still love her...but specifically reread how to DB/DR without becoming a doormat.
As to your question about handing her DR on the way out...I say, why not? You are leaving. If her recent responses to you are born of confusion and not manipulation, then the book couldn't hurt.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
