So sorry to hear about this Ats, If it helps when my W filed it was just like the way your H did. It was less than a week after a long R talk where she said she wasn't going to file, that separation was as far as she wanted to go, not going to lawyer, etc. Next thing I know she not only saw a lawyer, she hired him and filed! And yes, I got the "friends" thing and her acting oddly nice the fews days before I found out. It's all part of the script. I know that it doesn't really help to know that but you aren't alone. You will get through this Ats. You will be OK and so will the kids. Be careful and don't allow H to take advantage since you still really do care.
