Thx Wonka! A week break sounds good. I am emotionally spent right now.

In the past when it came to appointments I think it was probably 50/50. Like I would make an appointment for something related to the kids or finances (I'm more into long term financial planning) but he would make appointments for home maintenance stuff.

For issues that needed to be decided jointly, I would almost always be the one to get the conversation started and then generally we were pretty good about compromising. Even if things started out contentious we usually came out ok in the end. Although I have to say in the last 2 years or so there were a few tough issues that we could not seem to come to a compromised agreement on --- then we started avoiding.

M: 42
H: 43
M: 8 years
S7 and D4
H has D19 and S25 from previous M
Bomb: 3/6/14 OW discovered, EA & PA
1st separation, 10 days, decided to reconcile & moved back in. Fail
2nd separation: 5/1/14