MLC-WAW- Long Road Ahead- Help!

[AJM]

Seems you are fighting between wanting to be there for her and not wanting to be treated like a door mat.

About right?

Here's the thing. She is in pain. You may not have caused it, but it is what it is. She knows that. She articulated that to you.

Basically, this isn't about you.

While you know that, you're fighting feeling like you are being used (ego).

Have you read the welcome threads from Cadet, yet? Might be useful to you.

While you're doing that, can I just say that you have to figure out what you want? You have to figure out what you'll accept and what you won't to the point you don't look back.

For perspective: Being there for her is a way to stay connected. That's something not everyone gets a chance to do in this forum. That doesn't mean you'll save your marriage. It's about the relationship whether married or not.

What do YOU want and what are you willing to live with long-term?

Many of us have been where you are. Keep posting and you'll get some good advice and a great sounding board.

AJ