Ok, you're doing better but she didn't leave because you didn't finish projects around the house.
Can you tell us how old you and W are? Put it in your signature block so we can refer to it. How long have you been separated?
What we're looking for is the nitty gritty. Not the surface stuff. Why did she not like your entrepreneurial position? Inconsistent paycheck? Travel? Hours? Why?
Based on your list, her love language is 'acts of service'. Have you read The 5 Love Languages? If not, get it and read it. It will help you understand how she wants to be loved and maybe shed some light on how YOU want and need to be loved, too. Never a bad thing to know about yourself.
What kind of contact do you have with her now? Is it friendly? It's hard to be the one left behind but there are many people here in your situation and, while it's HARD, we're surviving.
I hate for you that she takes joy from your pain. That's awful. But I imagine she's taking joy from your pain because she too is in pain. That is something you need to look closely at. Why is she hurting? What did you do or not do to put her in pain? Oh no, you DEFINITELY contributed to it so own it. Look deep because it's there.
I'll tell you this: her relishing in your pain is terrible but let it motivate you to make yourself happy. Find ways to GAL, to smile, to laugh, to be OUT and have a good time, to learn something new, to involve yourself in something different. Don't let your pain and her relishing in it define you. You are MORE than your pain so be it.
Success is the best revenge. Not that I'm advocating revenge but if you're radiating happiness and finding ways to become a better you then word will get out... she'll know.
