Hi Jacket, oh too bad I see many of our previous posts have been deleted. But yes, I say do not send that flowery email. I still say if you want to send something write one that is much shorter and more succinct. "we have decided to split but we hope to remain friends. Hopefully this does not cause discomfort for you, our friends and loved ones"
And I don't think you have to explain to your H that his version is not what you experienced. I would be much more blunt and just say something like "we don't need to tell every detail of the story over this mass email. Let's keep it simple" and if he complains you can just tell him he is free to tell his long version of the story in person to friends and family.
Funny story about the French guy. Sounds like he is projecting. He feels there is something deeper behind your smile and so he says you have pain. Or your friend mentioned something that is going on with you and he is grabbing at that. Keep on flirting, girl!
