Well, keep doing what you are doing because it is working for YOU. Do not worry about what others see. It is about you remember. Also, be careful this 'why do you carry a lot of pain' line is not a smooth pick up line. Not saying it is, for all I know the guy is genuine. But i can totally see it as a way 'in' on someone who is feeling vulnerable or lonely.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
