Dealing with WAW part 4

[pilot]

Pilot,

Take my next comments with a grain of salt, I have a bit different scenario. I didn't like using the playing with phone technique you used when out with her and the kids the other day. To me, if you have an oppurtunity, why try to do something that annoyed you? To me it was like a game which is fine, but really if you get time is it not better spent showing the good you? Talking, making a joke, doting on the kids? These things to me, would seem to build something much better. Only my opinion.

Roid, I will give your comments full value, and thanks for posting. You are absolutely right that time spent with W would be better off doing positives. I guess I am just trying something different. Since she just moved here into her new place, I wanted to set the tone of I was not going to be readily available and it is quite possible I will be doing something else with someone else. I wanted to set the tone, but not actually say it. Was I wrong, probably. In fact I probably would have advised others here not to do it. But I am trying something different in almost a gambling fashion. I am leaning towards the route of completely dropping the rope and moving on (in appearance with someone else without actually being someone else). I guess I am doing this because I really am getting close to the end of my rope.

Truth be told, I am certain I could be spending a lot more time with my W and she would be ok with it. I am pretty certain that I could be at the very least taking her and the kiddos out to dinner several times a week when she has them and schedules permit. While part of me wants to do that, in keeping with what I had been doing over the summer when we were all together, the other part thinks that has not been working. Or maybe it has not been working quick enough for my impatient self...who knows.

Roid, I honestly just do not know what to do anymore, nor if I even want to do it. All in all my situation is not nearly as bad on the surface as many people here have it. There are no fights, no name calling, no refusal to see each other. There is not really even a D pending as she never served me yet. There is just no movement and seemingly no thought on her end on our M whatsoever. That was coming from what she said about not having given our M any thought. Now I know that is probably not true, but wtf, why say it?